Saturday, May 16, 2015

10 Things I Want To Teach My Daughters

                                                                  

I had planned to write a Mother's Day post but ended up having a busy weekend hanging out with the kids so, I am just now getting the time. A week later, well, late is better than never! Besides, when you're a mom (I think you ladies can all agree) everyday is Mother's Day!

Now I'm no expert, but I can share my personal thoughts and views based on my experience and if anyone can take anything from that, that's pretty awesome! 

Since I've had my daughter, I have felt a tremendous amount of pressure to be the best mom I can and give her the absolute best example of a woman. All the sudden I felt it was my duty as a mom to learn to knit, sew, bake pies, be a know-it-all crafty type, have the 4-1-1 on how to properly bleach whites, and give an inspirational speech at the drop of a hat. I do like crafts and I pin a lot of pie recipes (that has to count for something), and yes I am wearing a "Twerk It" Sweater in the above photo. Hahaha. 

Well, now I have three other children (my boyfriend's children) who I am also setting an example for. (Wow, layin' that pressure on thick!) Having two little girls who watch me, imitate me, look up to me, and look to me for guidance definitely makes me much more aware of myself and the image I portray. Considering you are always leading by example as a mother, I have thought about the Top 10 Things I Want To Teach My Daughters. And if they can take anything from me, I would like it to be this... 

10 Things I Want To Teach My Daughters:

1. The Art of Being Soft and Strong. 
Now, this is not easy. And it's something I continue to work at every single day. As a woman, you need to be soft. You need to be loving, kind, thoughtful, and understanding. Because love is the only thing in this world that can counter hate. I want you to always know that. Being soft doesn't make you weak. Having the ability to be compassionate and feel for others is a gift. I want you to know that. At the same time, as a woman, you need to be strong. People will often try to take your kindness for weakness and take advantage of you. If I could wish anything for you it would be for you to be loving and compassionate, to have the ability to stand on your own two feet, and to not take anyone's shit. (Just like mama!)

2. Please Practice Humility.
Confidence as a woman is a must but, arrogance is fugly (Yes, I used fugly) and a big no-no. I want you to succeed, do your best, be great, be beautiful, be brilliant but, I also want you to be humble. Arrogance is loud and ugly. Humbleness is a beautiful thing. Let your actions speak for themselves. 

3. Have Character And Do Not Be Afraid To Show It!
Character is in your actions. Doing the right thing when no one is looking. Doing the right thing when it may not necessarily benefit you. Being kind to people because it's right not because you want to get something out of it. The most beautiful women are the ones with true character. And the most beautiful women without it, have nothing to offer but their looks. I want you to know beauty is not all in how you look, dress, or present yourself. Beauty is in the essence of who you are and how gracefully you deal with others and situations. 

4. Always Have Respect For Yourselves. 
Now this one ties into character. As a woman, you are constantly being pulled in one direction and the other. What society thinks you should do, what your friends think you should do, what guys your age think you should do. I do not want you to ever fall victim to this kind of thinking. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, let them go. If someone wants you to do something you're not ready to do, see-ya. Respect goes a lot further than attention will ever get you. I want you to know this. I want you to know you are special, you are rare, you are beautiful, and you are one of a kind. You should never allow anyone to treat you as anything less. And you should never treat yourself as anything less. (And if someone treats you as less you walk away or tell me and I will kick their ass!)

5. Do Not Chase A Guy!
Now, this is for the future. If a guy is really interested in you and for the right reasons, he will pursue you. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time. Sure, he may be cute and popular and charming but, in the end, that's not actually important when it comes to a relationship. You do not have to text, call, chase, (or in my worst nightmares) stalk him! Hahaha. I want you to know that you deserve the fairytale! A guy who adores and respects you and he will come along. But, you can't force a guy who just isn't him, to be him. And, you shouldn't want to. I will refer you both back to #4 Having Respect For Yourselves. 

6. People Are More Important Than Things. 
Nothing in life is promised. I learned this at a young age. I want you to understand that material things are not what's important in life. What's important is spending time with the people we love because that time is always limited. Material things and possessions lose their luster but old photographs, memories, and the time we spend with the people we love are priceless. 

7. Do Not Be Scared Of Being Alone. 
This is a big one. Some times in life you will be alone. Be okay with that. Be okay with just focusing on yourself and bettering yourself. Being alone gives you the option of being picky. Don't run into the arms of someone who isn't right for you in the fear of being alone. Because being in the wrong company can feel a million times lonlier than being alone. There is strength in being alone. Wait for the person worth compromising your alone time for. 

8. Accept That The Only Thing In Life You Have Control Over Is Yourself. 
You cannot control the world, you cannot control others, and some times you have absolutely no control over events that take place. What you do have control over is yourself, who you choose to be around, what activities you choose to partake in, and your reaction to things. The sooner you accept this, the happier and easier your life will be. 

9. Time Is Limited, Do What YOU Love!
Don't live your lives for others. Don't live your lives to appease me even. Do what you love, and don't wait. Do as much of what you love as you can. And take tons of pictures and send them to me!

10. Do Not Try To Fit In!
You are fine just the way you are. You are special and unique. There is only one you. Celebrate it! You offer your own strengths, opinions, talents, and unique viewpoint. Do not lose that in trying to be like everyone else. You were born to be an individual. And remember what can be found everywhere is common, but what is unique and rarely found is sought after. 

And remember that I love you and I always will! 

                                   



Sunday, March 22, 2015

Natural Beauty is Also Beautiful


I've been wanting to make a post about this for awhile and I feel like there is going to be backlash but some things just need to be said. I love make up as much as the next girl but, some times you just gotta embrace what yo mama gave ya. 

 We live in a world and time where people are obsessed with material things and looks to the point that now surgery is a common everyday thing. We often idolize celebrities and people who have little to no substance or talent, just because they are attractive or we believe that they're perfect. I love fashion, make up, and beautiful things as much as the next girl but, I think the fact that social media has turned looking perfect into an obsession is a serious problem. And to be honest, it kind of turned me off to blogging for awhile. We have people, in the masses, idolizing people with fake everything, altered photos, altered perception of their lives. I just want to be as real as I possibly can. It makes me happy and humbled when I receive messages and emails saying I inspire people. I would rather inspire one person for the right reason then a million for the wrong ones. Leading people to believe I'm always all done up in make up, my hair is always done, I always have it altogether, because I don't. I found this quote and it really spoke to me. 




Yes, looks do matter to me. The way you present yourself is the way you want to be perceived. The way a person carries themselves and takes care of themselves reflects their character. This is the first impression you are giving to a future employer, friend, potential relationship, the world. The way you present yourself also affects your overall confidence and demeanor. However, beauty and looks are not very high on my list of what's important in life. Looks and how you present yourself are nearly a tool, they're not who you are and they only run surface deep. How you present yourself will get you in the door. How you speak, think, and carry yourself will take you so much further. It's one thing to say a woman is pretty, it's another to say she's brilliant. A pretty face will be forgotten. But someone who truly makes an impression on you and changes the way you think or look at a situation, that stays with you forever. 

So, I will leave you with this: 



This is me on an average Sunday. No make up, nappy hair, wearing workout shorts and a tank top (And must admit, I haven't worked out. Hahaha.). No one in this world is perfect. Not you, not the celebrities and artists you look up to, but what you can do is work on being the best possible you that you can be. And that starts from within. ✌️ #naturalisalsobeautiful




Simple Baked Salmon

Simple Baked Salmon



Salmon
Garlic & Herb Butter/Spread
Salt 
Pepper
Olive Oil
Lemon

This is seriously the easiest salmon dish you will ever bake. It literally is like 5 steps. Preheat Oven 400°. Put a little olive oil in your pan. (I used a glass dish.) Brush salmon with a little olive oil. Season with salt & pepper. Put about a tablespoon of your Garlic & Herb Butter/Spread on top of each piece of salmon. Put it in the oven and bake for about 25 mins or so. (Or 6 mins for each 1/2 in. thick your salmon is.) I usually bake it longer than necessary because my boyfriend prefers is to be crispier. I served mine with a slice of lemon. 

This came out super yummy. It was a hit. My boyfriend loved it. And it was pretty quick which is always a plus. You can pair this up with just about any vegetable and it would be great. You can also make this a bit healthier by opting for fresh herbs and minced garlic instead of the butter. I feel silly posting such a simple recipe but honestly these are always the ones I am looking for so figured I would share. If you guys have any other quick salmon recipes let me know. I love trying new stuff!

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

California Transition to Fall


Hey loves! Man, it's been awhile since I've updated this baby! Been so busy with my daughter starting preschool! I'm happy to report I am still living a healthier lifestyle and working out. I am 12 lbs down and feeling great. Good timing because we always have that heat wave in Fall. So, no need to pack up my shorts yet!






Here is a pretty casual transition to Fall. Mixing summer styles with booties and jackets and blazers is a great option. Gives you a little more time to hold on to your Summer shorts and tanks! Layer, layer, layer! 





Lazer cut detailing has been in the spotlight as of late. I personally love it. Adds a little flair to your regular peep toe bootie, or leather skirt. I love mixing a mini skirt or shorts with booties. Such an effortless chic and gives you more of a Fall feel. 





Sunglasses: Chloe, on sale HERE on my eBay 
Blazer: Cotton On
Tank: Cotton On
Distressed Denim Shorts: TOBI
Lazer Cut Suede Bootie: Zara





Monday, July 22, 2013

Down 5 lbs!

My week has gone by pretty fast and I'm happy to report, really well. It's honestly true, once you change your eating habits for awhile you stop craving "bad" foods. I haven't had any cravings for candy or fast food whatsoever. As far as how I'm feeling physically, I feel amazing. 100x better than before. I never realized how tired, bloated, and sluggish my meal choices used to make me feel. Now that I've been eating fresh I have so much more energy! 

For those of you who have asked what I've been doing, it's pretty simple. I cut out all: Fast Food, Processed Food, Soda, & the majority of sweets. I've only been drinking water with the exception of Green Tea, Herbalife Aloe, & Herbalife Tea. (Oh yeah, and Starbucks. I've already had my balls busted about my Starbucks. I'm sorry avid health freaks, I do care about health and fitness, but, I'm not giving up my coffee!) However, there are a tons of healthier alternatives. Such as, low fat syrup, almond milk, nonfat milk, etc. 

I love going out to eat but that's another thing that I've eliminated for the time being. Once I'm down to my goal weight I will go out once and awhile but, for now I think the best way to lose weight is to cook my own meals. When you go out to dinner, a lot of times you'll think you're making a healthy choice but, there's really no way to know exactly what's in your food unless you're making it. For example: salt, butter, sugar, etc. I limit my amount of carbs but I don't cut them out completely. 

I don't do everything "by the book" by all means. I'm just taking it step by step and learning as I go. I've been trying a lot of different recipes which has been fun and kept it interesting. I think the reason dieting is so hard for most people is because they think they can only eat salad. Definitely not the case. Here are a few examples of what I've been eating over the last week:

Veggie Omlete: 1/3 Cup Egg Beaters, Mushrooms, Chopped Zucchini, Lowfat Cheese, Fresh Spinach, & Avocado. 

Whole Wheat Blueberry Protein Pancakes, Fruit, & Agave. 

Fresh Spinach & Zucchini Egg White Omlete. 

Strawberries, Kiwi, & Cottage Cheese. 


I do have a crazy sweet tooth. I can usually satisfy it with fruit. One trick I've learned is to bake a banana and then sprinkle it with cinnamon; Super Good! But sometimes, you're just in the mood for chocolate. If you have to eat chocolate: MAKE IT DARK! Here are a few desserts I've made that satisfied my sweet tooth and made me FEEL like I was being naughty. Haha!

Protein Brownies. 


In addition to the change in my eating habits I've continued to keep active. My daily workout routine is 45 mins- 1 hr 1/2 Cardio. Including leg and core exercises. I have weights and a bench in my garage. I work on arms and legs, thighs, butt. What's usually most important to us ladies. ;) Lunges, Box Jumps, & Squats. But more on that later! First week: 5 lbs down!




Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Lifestyle Change/ Fridge Overhaul




I'm going through a kind of transition period right now, in my life. I'm getting older and I'm extremely sick of eating bad. I love food. My grandma used to ask "Do you eat to live or do you live to eat?" Hahaha. Back then I would just roll my eyes but, it's a question I've been pondering a lot now. When I was younger I always loved food and probably didn't have the best diet but, I was always naturally thin. As a teenager I would pig out on any and everything. I thought I would never weigh over 120 lbs. (I'm 5'5" for reference). Reality set in when I got pregnant. I gained 40 lbs. My metabolism definitely changed a lot after having my daughter.

Being a mom is amazing. And of course, I love my daughter more than anything. On the other hand, it is extremely hard to get a balance going where you're also taking care of yourself, not just your kids. I've always admired girls who live a super healthy lifestyle. I've just never had the willpower to follow through. I'll eat a couple good meals and then I'll see chocolate and say "Ehhh.. I ate good today, it's not that bad if I have some." Then I'll tell myself "it's not that bad if I just have one scoop of ice cream." Then a friend will want to go to dinner and I'll eat pasta and cheesecake. Hahahaha. I'm not saying you should never indulge but, I can never say no to myself. It's not until recently that I finally decided enough is enough.

I've been pretty consistent with going to the gym but, I finally realized, why work twice as hard if I don't have to? By just changing my eating habits and making my own meals I'm working with myself instead of against myself. It's gotten to the point that, I'm just really unhappy with my body. I want to feel confident in a bikini and in any clothes really. I think the main reason I haven't been blogging about fashion as much is because of the fact I've been so unhappy with how I look in clothes. I just wanna slim down and bulk up a little in the muscle department. Do you know, not kidding here, I think I may no longer have any muscles in my left arm? LOL!!! It's so weak, it's sad. I also really need to learn to cook better. My tastiest recipes are banana bread, chicken & sour cream enchiladas, and buffalo chicken cheese dip. Hahahaha. All amazing, may I point out. Just not amazing for you.

I've finally made the decision I'm going to do this for me. And my health. And I decided to write about it and share my recipes along the way cause I've had a lot of questions on my Instagram. I could also use some moral support. My mom thinks I'm insane and look great how I am. As sweet as that is, I'm the one who sees myself naked. Hahahahaha

On that note, here's my shopping list for everything I bought earlier at Sprouts. For those of you looking to make a change to a healthier lifestyle and eating habits, I'll be posting my meals for this week and recipes!


Raspberries 
Blueberries
2 Mangos
Kiwi 
Pineapple
Green Apples
Bananas
6 lemons 
Limes
6 cups Kale
Avocados 
Cucumbers
Spinach
12 Celery Stalks 
Mushroom 
Asparagus
Onion
Cilantro 
Tomatoes 
2 Liters Coconut Water
Sun dried Tomatoes
Crumbled Goat Cheese
Crumbled Feta
Eggs
Liquid Egg Whites
Almond Milk
Cottage Cheese
Greek Yogurt
Cayenne Pepper Spice
Ground Flaxseed
Dryed Coconut
Quinoa
Almond flour
Cacao Powder
Unsweetened cocoa powder 
Whole wheat pancake mix
Whey protein
Chocolate Whey Protein
Coconut Oil
Agave
Dark chocolate chips
Green Tea Bags
Stevia
Lavender drops
Epsom Salt
Chicken Breast

Supplements
Multivitamin 
Omega 3
Probiotic

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Chic Wild & Free in Floral Heels


It has been super sunny here in San Diego and nothing says Spring and Summer like a pair of floral heels! These are a unique piece to add to your wardrobe this Season. Whether it's a bold floral pump or feminine floral sandal!  




There are so many ways to wear a pair of floral heels. Whether you decide to pair them with a dress, or skirt and blazer. I decided to go with these scalloped chiffon shorts, graphic tee, and jacket. 




The relaxed fit of a graphic tee balances out the short hemline of a skirt or in this case, these chiffon shorts. (Plus, I love the color of this shirt, duh, mint!) The floral heels add a feminine touch to my whole look. 




Being that I'm here in San Diego and the warmer months are soon approaching it only makes sense that I love to explore every avenue of shorts. I love the idea of dressier shorts. Because honestly, here in San Diego, it's necessary. Sometimes it's too hot to wear pants but you're not in the mood to wear a dress. These chiffon shorts are a great compromise. I love the scalloped edges on the shorts, definitely makes them look more feminine and dressy. 




I'm in love with this structured jacket from the fit to the color. This is one of my favorite purchases from Zara recently. It's so versatile and definitely a closet staple. It can be thrown on with pair of jeans and tank or worn with a skirt and crop top. 




I love the ultra feminine silhouette of the heels. A beautiful but more subtle way to incorporate a floral shoe into your wardrobe. A little less bold than a floral pump but, makes a statement nonetheless. 







Floral Sandals: Steve Madden, Jacket: Zara, Graphic Tee: Express, Scalloped Chiffon Shorts: Nordstrom, Bracelets: Links of London